Usually means they have a weaker hand. Meant to intimidate or convey they are in a hurry with a good hand. When you have a good hand, you act more purposefully.
When you see someone make a slow bet with their chips it is implying they have a weak hand. If you really had a weak hand would you be so obvious with your bet? Nope, you'd try to act as normal as possible.◦
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Bet Quickly
Humming Your Words
You'd be surprised how many people will answer questions with a slight hum. Unless you are from the northern region of Brazil, it is not normal to sing/hum your words.
This actually happened in my own home last week. A skateboard was left behind my wife's car and she backed over it. Evidence showed my high school son had moved his bike to go to his girlfriends house. My wife asked everybody in the house who moved the skateboard. Denials. She had to ask them all several times, and was on the war path- wanting someone else to replace our elementary girl's expensive toy.
Then I heard my son's "I didn't do it" and I knew he had- and I knew what had happened.
So I told him, "You don't remember specifically moving the skateboard, and certainly do not have recollection of leaving it behind your mom's car, but your voice gave you away- you hummed your words. You're not sure, but you think you probably did move it when you got your bike, but because you do not remember the specifics you have been denying it."
Both my son and wife smiled and he admitted that was probably what happened. Case closed. Aftermath, my wife promised to buy my daughter a new skateboard.
This happens all the time, and is unmistakable when you actually hear it in person. It is residue from our childhoods where we would whine to our parents for things and in denials. In childhood, somewhere along the way, we learn it is not good to lie. We also learn if we do not outright lie, show some remorse, and if caught in a lie it is better not to be caught in a lie where we deliver it stone cold without emotion.
Post script, it comes in really handy to have the ability to tell what is going around the home, but I will let things play out as if I couldn't see a half shoulder shrug, or the lies by omissions when they are not really asking to ride their bike and instead they are really asking to go to a friends house- for that I simply say ask what you really mean. For every PRO there is an equal CON- trust me.◦
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
High Profile Person Charged With a Crime
One of the things I have noticed over the years is how high profile people deny their charges to the media. If the person immediately begins stating things concerning attorneys and their day in court... it is not as strong of a denial as I didn't do_________ and it puts me on guard that they may be guilty.
'I'm innocent..." also does not sit well with me, cause even the guilty are innocent before the trial. I'd much rather hear I didn't do it and I will be found innocent.
If someone is stating things concerning being falsely accused and they will have their day in court and they are not showing anger or frustration- I'm on alert. If I'm innocent, falsely accused, having to pay attorneys, and putting my life on hold when I did nothing wrong... I'm not going to calmly accept things without putting out there the harshest denial possible.◦
Monday, July 20, 2009
John Gosselin and Mystery Blond Last Night
Jul 19 2009
Jon Gosselin departs dinner at 'Accademia di Vino' with a mystery blonde, stops to pose photos, then goes for a walk together in NYC.
Take a look at Jon. I see two things going on here. One, his hand in his pocket, with thumb outside his pocket is a high confidence pose. Two, his non symmetrical smile show that it is not a true smile of enjoyment- There is some unknown emotion underneath the surface (could be- look at me, I'm on top of the world; or could be- this will really hurt Kate when she see this; who knows what he is really feeling or thinking).
The mystery blond knows a little about having her picture taken. The way her left leg is bent, turned towards Jon is a protective posture- She is saying she is more comfortable with Jon than the photographer. Her posture, and the way she holds her hand is showing a certain amount of confidence. The way she holds here head would be wrongly interrupted as shame (because she is looking down) because shame and confidence are two emotions that you do not see together.
It would be interesting to know the particulars with this dinner, with matching outfits and posing for the photographers makes me suspect it was set up to take the heat off Jon's other over-reported relationship with the teacher- this is only speculation on my part. He does look like a changed man, more sure of himself as of lately.◦
Freeze, Fight, or Flight
I've been studying in the field for a long time, and when I read about this concept in this book... it was one of those defining moments. It is not often a "new" concept is verbalized.
Joe Navarro, the author and former FBI agent, says that often we don't have only two options when surprised as is most often reported: fight or flight. We actually have three options: freeze, flight, or fight. It actually makes sense. Now I don't buy his orgins of this behavior, but the studies in this area support his conclusions.
Whenever we are faced with cognitive processing we are in fact freezing. This would be most common in interrogations at the police station- as compared to the would be attacker in the garage parking lot.
When we lie, we often show clues because we are processing information, and weighing our options.
Joe Navarro, I tip my hat to you, for being the first to recognize it and write about it in a book. Cheers!
To those of you that haven't checked out this book, I can highly recommended it- especially if you are in law enforcement, the examples he provides are from the field as a top FBI agent who several times wrote for the FBI bulletin.◦
Sunday, July 19, 2009
What is this Boxer Showing?
Take a look, is this the face of someone who just won the boxing match?
Does it show anger?
LONDON, ENGLAND - MAY 19: Darren Corbett tries to scare Ovill McKenzie during the during the Final of the Prizefighter Series Cruiserweights competition at Earls Court on May 19, 2009 in London, England. (Photo by Christopher Lee/Getty Images)◦
Shoplifters
On a previous post I mentioned how shoplifters look at items. In this post I want to explorer the reverse of this. If someone is coming into the store with the intention of shoplifting, watch them come into the store and for the first minute they are in the store. Shoplifters will restrict their movements, in an effort to not stand out at all, and the result is they actually stand out even more because it is so unnatural.
So if you have someone looking around a great deal, and little arm movements... be alert.◦
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Sotomayor's Blink Rate
Wallace discusses Milbank's "interesting" analysis of Sotomayor's "blink rate"
O'Reilly hosts "Body Language Czarina" Reiman to Discuss Sotomayor's Blink Rate
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Sesame Street's Count's Number of the Day
The science has proven when people are making up a story they are more likely to come up with the number three. It could be: I was hit three times, I heard three shots, or I was to meet them at 1:30, there were three of them.
It is called the Liars Number among investigators, and puts them on alert to possible other items in a statement that could show deceit or truthfulness.◦
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