How Could I Be So Blind!

Hindsight...

We want to believe the lies, we ignore the signs, and we are duped.

Why?

Well, for each lie there could be a different reason: cannot deal with the change that would occur after the truth comes out; do not want to accept the betrayal; if is easier to live in the shadow of doubt than face the consequences of a lie; and there could be many,many more reasons...

It is important to remember that catching the person in an untruth may not be as important and being in a position to be able to start coping with the aftermath.