More to Love: Episode Three (Bonus: My Grade)

If you haven't read my first post on this show, you might want to take a look here.

So how am I doing on the initial impressions?

All four of the contestants who I said did not have a good greeting, GONE!

Last night Luke eliminated 4 girls, which means 12 become 8. I picked up on 5 girls that he had an initial spark with in my first post and 4 of them are still remaining.

Now if you do not think that that is a pretty good average... it will get better as the show goes on.

Of the women he kept last night- two women were kept because he did not want to hurt their feelings... neither of them were in my top picks. They will be gone and they know it, Kristian and Danielle. You could clearly see it in their body language during the ring ceremony; I will rely on their "read" of the situation above mine because they showed extreme stress and sadness- they know their days are numbered.

Now what I find interesting and EXPECTED is of the contestants who remain, but are NOT in my top list, they are making it on the strength of their personality and fit with Luke, and a little help from the producers.*

It is a classic ying and yang of all relationships: Sexual biological forces vs companionship, personality, and fit.



What to look for in the coming weeks as they move onto individual dates?

- Look at the greetings, it will be the best indication of the relationship. Excitement seen here is important.

- Watch the amount of touching (not kissing- Luke has learned who will and who will not and like a typical guy gets it when he can).

- Watch the goodbyes and immediately afterwards. Guage emotions.


Where does Luke stand in all this?

A big cardboard cutout could stand in for him. He is not showing a great deal of emotion, in fact he showed the most emotion last night when he saw his college friends!?!? This tells me he is not taking the quest to find someone very seriously. It is like he is going through the motions and only following the direction the show's concepts- we call it MASKING. When he speaks he is not at ease- to the point where it is unnatural. He has not "fallen" for any of them because he is nowhere close to the point where he would be heartbroken if he had to do without any of the contestants. He is not a happy person, he is a person who is trying to play a happy person. The show's focus has been the contestants, which is good because I'm not seeing any personality from Luke. He is not as strong and confident as he is protrayed. To be honest Luke makes me feel uncomfortable.

The woman who "wins" will be the woman who is confident, lets him know she has a mind of her own, and is not so desperate- He is not comfortable in the leadership role of a relationship.



* Producers can control Luke through subtle covert coaching behind the scenes- it happens on most of these shows (they can highlight conflict with their questions and promote the strengths of those that add drama and energy to the shows.◦

More to Love: Episode Three (Bonus: My Grade)