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nonverbal communication and behavioral psychology
Emotions ~ Body Language & Gestures ~ Deceit
I also have a couple of warnings: (1) Don't read people and tell people what you're seeing in them. People hate it- and you become instantly creepy; (2) Be careful, if all of a sudden you are looking at everything more clearly you can become super sensitive. This can be very dangerous to yourself and all of your relationships. Recognize if at least 70% of our communication is not the words that are used- all of a sudden you could be seeing 3 times more information it can be scary- so chill out a little.
Starting to Learn: With a little investment of money and many hours of study you to will see the world differently.
Step 1:
Get a good body language book. I can recommend this book because it covers all the bases.
Step 2:
Practice, Practice, Practice. I find airports and sandwich shops (on weekday lunches) are the best places to read people. There always a electic mix of people- sometimes they are there for business, other times it is catching up with friends. Do it at least once a week, if not more. Go to parties and different events to expose yourself to different reads, notice the differences. Learn.
Step 3:
Get advanced micro expression training at Humintell. Get certified in microexpressions, then do it until you get a perfect score. There is no sense learning to recognize what is going on but getting it wrong. Once your perfect, keep up your skills to maintain your score by going back every so often.
Step 4:
Get yourself a good pair of dark or mirrored sunglasses because when you are outside you do not want to be caught starring at someone, and then stare at everyone. Think Secret Service.
Step 5:
The best book on lying I have come across for the non professional is this one. Memorize it. Read and skim it every so often. If you know and understand the concepts presented in this book, it is like you’ve been working as a police detective for 20+ years.
Step 6:
Get Subtle Expression Recognition Training at Humintell. This training examines how the core emotions can be shown on only part of the face. They occur when an emotion is first beginning. They also occur when someone is trying to suppress any sign of how they are feeling. Recognizing true feelings is important to the craft.
Step 7:
Detecting Deception Through Statement Analysis
People's words betray their true thoughts, and they will provide you with more information than they realize. This book will show you what to look for in verbal and written statements to determine if they are telling the truth. If you are a fan of "Lie to Me" the stuff in this book is their secret weapon that they never explain the science of, but use in every episode.
Step 8:
More books. These I can recommend because they are really interesting. Sure they will cover some of the concepts you already learned from the first body language book, but they have something to add, and it becomes a refresher now that you have some experience under your belt.
Step 9 (Become Advanced):
Branch out. Get more technical books. Read FBI profiler books. Check out some NLP stuff. Watch the news show that feature interrogations like 48 hours and Dateline. Watch some reality shows like the Bachelor. Read scientific articles on the latest research in the area. Play poker. Offer to interview candidates for job openings at work. Watch the news. Pay attention in meetings. Sell something to someone. Watch Lie to Me and some of the non technical crime shows are pretty good. Meet someone at a meeting or social setting. Make sure your family and friends know you care about them by using what you learned here to show them.
Some of the other items in my tool kit are:
I buy my books in pdf format, that way I can search across all the pdfs with Adobe Reader. I also have a pdf print driver so if I see something on the web I print it to a pdf file and it is part of my library. I probably have twenty books and hundreds of articles that I have collected over the years.
I have a Namesysco voice stress analyzer. It is a powerful tool but it is only one tool in the whole toolbox.
I also have several programs that help me analyze written copy.
Then for fun I have this...
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6 comments:
Yeah! I saw it! He just lied why he was answering that question. Or i would say he is clearly not sure what he was saying at 3:20 in the video. The lowered brows gives it away!
The fact is either you're good at catching lies or you're good at lying, never both. Whether it is innate or under training.
The perspective given by one side makes it difficult to fully commit to the other side. When you're good at catching lies, you understand how complex and difficult it is to make a good and successful lie - especially against someone who can catch lies. Likewise, being a good liar requires incredible acting abilities but when you act, your judgement is impaired to some extent since your mind is busy holding a mask. Either requires devoted attention to be good at...
Ian.
That's a gesture...of concentration. It's actually an illustrator, which tends to indicate honesty.
Do the world a favor and don't start accusing people of deception just because you see a muscle move unless you've done some actual hard research. Watching a tv show and a few youtubes doesn't cut it.
I never accused the Paul of deception. In fact he was being honest when he said that he for the most part had been able to be honest most of the time. His wink and word choice, in my opinion, was his way of saying it is extremely difficult to be totally honest all the time. It was an example of how subconsciously his facial expressions added to the message.
I have never considered a 'wink' as a gesture, it is a facial expression. Illustrator gestures are used to enhance the verbal messages. Like showing how large a fish is, or when giving directions you may point your finger in a particular direction to show another the correct way to go.
It's not a wink, and it's not subconscious.
A "wink" is a unilateral split-second relaxation, then contraction, of the levator palpebrae superioris. The entire upper eyelid will close.
What you see at 3:20 is a unilateral contraction of the orbicularis oculi (pars palpebralis) and corrugator muscles. Note (among many other clues) the eye doesn't actually close all the way. It's also not fast enough for a blink/wink.
It also not a microexpression. The movements occur three times in sequence, and much slower than the standard microexpression, indicating deliberate expression.
It's used as a gesture of emphasis, and it's no more subconscious than a brow raise emphasis gesture.
See, e.g.:
Ekman, P., & Friesen, W. V. & Hager, J.C. (2003). The Facial Action Coding System. Palo Alto, CA: Consulting Psychologists Press. p17, p28, p40.
Ekman, P. (1979). About brows: Emotional and conversational signals. In M. von Cranach, K. Foppa, W. Lepenies, & D. Ploog (Eds.), Human ethology (pp. 169-248). Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.
Ekman, P., & Friesen, W. V. (1969). Nonverbal leakage and clues to deception. Psychiatry, 32, 88-105.
A person lies a average a three times per 10 minutes (about 04:22). He than says something like it's nonsense and than does a one shoulder shrug. This was funny to see I think, because it isn't a baseline behavior of him.
Also this one, it isn't so clear to catch someone lie and than shows a little smile and later does a shoulder shrug. I think because for him it was easy. Not so strange because he's an expert.
He looks like a great man, very humble I think, I really like his work and his personality (from what I see).
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