Stop the Press!!! Bachelor!!!! and Rozlyn Papa was She Lying

I am sorry to all the fans of reality shows; I've watched almost every show of the new season and felt conflicted. The new bachelor (or the producers) have been playing with our feelings. Nothing has seemed right; sometimes he picks the girl who he had connected with the most, other times the exact opposite. I've been going crazy not writing about this.

Several producers of this type of show have emailed me in the past and I've been having a huge conflicts- let things happen as the producers want it to happen or tell the truth...

The latest bachelor does not have the mental capacity to make an informed decision concerning his long term future- whomever he chooses will not stand the test of time.

To those who have emailed me the last several weeks/months, I apologise- did not want to ruin it for you.

Now onto Rozlyn Papa and the inappropriate relationship with a producer.



When the host asks if anything happened physically at the house, we can see her answer "absolutely not" but she does display a shoulder shrug as she is saying it.

When the host asks why she did not stop him and and tell him he was out of his mind (when he was confronting her on the show about the relationship) she makes a joke, "Well I was thinking it, don't worry." Whenever someone is being asked a question (which it was a great question that gets to the heart of the situation) and they attempt to use humor instead of directly answering, it is a deflection technique, and is often a sign of deception. At some level they are trying to lessen the impact of a high stakes question and therefore discount both the question and their answer.

As she is explaining why she thought she was being confronted- calling her son- she actually gives the host a subtle WINK with her left eye. HOTSPOT. Even though she thought of a somewhat loosely plausible, somewhat logical statement, she herself does not believe it and gives it away with a WINK!

"Made it clear I used his phone." Shoulder shrug.

When she is confronted about the phone issue and relationship issue being separate, she clearly has been caught and she goes into shutdown mode. Joe Navarro craftily describes the three stages of confrontation as Freeze, Fight, or Flight. Rozlyn clearly is in the FREEZE mode. When I read about this concept in Joe's book, it so simple and clear, but it had never been articulated and was quickly accepted by those of us that study body language- up to that point we had not recognized the freeze mode and thought there was only flight or fight... Unfortunately, the host asks a question too soon and "pulls" her from the frozen state. If you see this happen in real life, remain quiet and allow the subject to make the next move- you may be very close to obtaining a confession. This is one of those rare 'personality' defining moments that are rarely seen and occur infrequently in interpersonal communication.

"On my child's life, that never happened!" is a declarative statement. Declarative statements like this and, "I swear to God" are not usually given by honest people and often indicate deception.

You can also hear the stress in her voice, her pitch becomes higher, it is a clear sign of stress.◦

Stop the Press!!! Bachelor!!!! and Rozlyn Papa was She Lying