Abuse...Roses...Abuse

Nothing says, "I'm sorry" better than roses.

Receiving flowers is a common thread amongst those who are abused by their partner; and sending flowers is an effort for the abuser to apologize to the victim.

Now, please do not think that your coworker who received flowers is being abused, it doesn't work like that.

Most abusers actually feel remorse for their behavior and send flowers to make up for the pain they have created. The problem is not the flowers, the problem is they do not have the skills to control their behavior(s) and often times are repeating their own familial patterns that they experienced. It is difficult to break the cycle.

They will send flowers in the most public way, for instance sending them to their place of work. This way the abuser will unwittingly get others on his side, as the coworkers tell her how great of a guy he is.

If you are in a relationship where the highs are higher and the lows are lower, and there has been any sign of violence YOU ARE IN A VERY DANGEROUS SITUATION THAT MAY RESULT IN YOUR DEATH.

If you see flowers and a bruise or other strange marks on a friend or family member's body, this is a signal that there MAY be something wrong and dangerous with her situation.

Most abusers do not abuse in a premeditated way, they do so as a result of unable to deal with some sort of event- not necessary related to their partner's action.

While there are warning signs of agitation, stress, built up energy- many times there is not time to react to these signs and RUN. The one thing you cannot do is control another person's behavior and even trying can lead to consequences.◦

Abuse...Roses...Abuse