Angelina Jolie's Awkward Pose on the Red Carpet

What is this all about?  This has become the body language issue of the week!

It is meant to be sexy. When a beautiful woman shows "more" skin that is usually covered by fabric, guys cannot resit the urge to look, and hope for more and more skin. It does not matter if the woman is in a pioneer dress to the ankles, if we see the skin of the lower leg, it has the same effect.  Guys are very primitive when it comes to sexuality. There is a lesson here for every woman.

The best at this was... believe it or not... Jessica Rabbit...

Off course it is a whole lot easier when you're a cartoon.

But it falls short when it is practiced, contrived, and not at all natural. Hindsight is 20/20, but if she would have consulted me about the pose I would have told her to move around naturally in a circle when the photographers wanted a shot of her in the dress, move into the pose, and immediately out of the pose, and under no circumstances hold the pose.  The photographers would have caught her at her most sexual and it would have seemed natural.  Also notice how she holds her head and her facial expressions, she is going for a certain coy look.  A look that does not fit with the setting, it would work great for the after Oscar party, but not on the red carpet.  

What she does great is the angles with her arm...

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Angelina Jolie's Awkward Pose on the Red Carpet

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Valentines Day Didn't Work Out So Well, There Is A Book For That

New Issue of Journal of Nonverbal Behavior

Journal of Nonverbal Behavior.
Volume 34 Number 3 is now available on SpringerLink

There are two articles I found interesting:

The Semantic Specificity Hypothesis: When Gestures Do Not Depend Upon the Presence of a Listener

Abstract
Humans gesture even when their gestures can serve no communicative function (e.g., when the listener cannot see them). This study explores the intrapersonal function of gestures, and the semantic content of the speech they accompany. Sixty-eight adults participated in pairs, communicating on an object description task. Visibility of partner was manipulated; participants completed half the task behind a screen. Participants produced iconic gestures significantly more for praxic items (i.e., items with physically manipulable properties) than non-praxic items, regardless of visibility of partner. These findings support the semantic specificity hypothesis, whereby a gesture is integrally associated with the semantic properties of the word it accompanies. Where those semantic properties include a high motor component the likelihood of a gesture being produced is increased, irrespective of communication demands.

My comments: First, Iconic gestures or illustrators are closely related to speech, illustrating what is being said. Iconic gestures are different from other gestures in that they are used to show physical, concrete items. I see this this happen all the time, most often when people are talking on the phone. It appears that we feel most comfortable when speaking and gesturing, it is natural for us. This is why, when we are talking to someone and there are no gestures, or the amount of gestures changes it is significant.

Vocal and Physiological Changes in Response to the Physical Attractiveness of Conversational Partners

Abstract
We examined how individuals may change their voices when speaking to attractive versus unattractive individuals, and if it were possible for others to perceive these vocal changes. In addition, we examined if any concurrent physiological effects occurred when speaking with individuals who varied in physical attractiveness. We found that both sexes used a lower-pitched voice and showed a higher level of physiological arousal when speaking to the more attractive, opposite-sex target. Furthermore, independent raters evaluated the voice samples directed toward the attractive target (versus the unattractive target) as sounding more pleasant when the two voice samples from the same person presented had a reasonably perceptually noticeable difference in pitch. These findings may have implications for the role voice plays in mate selection and attraction.

My comments: Not only is this significant for the whole "finding of a mate" thingy; Pitch can and does always tell us the amount of interest and/or the amount of comfort or discomfort; and this directly relates to social status and/or authority figures... Once you notice and understand the characteritics of the voice and how it relates to reading people, it may be more telling than facial expressions...◦

New Issue of Journal of Nonverbal Behavior

Whitehouse Gatecrashers, The Salahis, Hold Melbourne Press Conference

Tareq Salahi and Michaele Salahi pose at a press conference with the USA Polo Team on February 4, 2010 in Melbourne, Australia. Tareq Salahi is the captain of the USA Polo Team who will play against the Victorian representative team. Michaele and Tareq Salahi are the infamous couple who gatecrashed a White House state dinner for Indian Prime Minister Manmohan Singh in 2009.

It may be that Michaele Salahi has done some modeling in the past so she knows how to "act" when being photgraphed, but in every picture she is sending clear signals she is "into" her man. Notice her body positioning and body language in each of these photographs. What man wouldn't want to see his wife look at him they way she does?





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Whitehouse Gatecrashers, The Salahis, Hold Melbourne Press Conference

Flirting

Anytime we turn away from the object of our desire with a smile on our face it is flirting- making him work for it and come and get me if you want me...◦

Flirting

Confidence in the Walk

SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - DECEMBER 06: Supermodel Kristy Hinze enjoys watching the action during the final round of the 2009 Australian Open at New South Wales Golf Club on December 6, 2009 in Sydney, Australia.

The further we swing our arms while walking, the more confidence we are showing. The confidence you are showing will be broken if it is becomes too large, or over the top; this is why some models on the catwalk look silly while others look great- it is the difference between subtle and large arm motions.

When walking think energy- this usually translates to confidence.◦

Confidence in the Walk

The Hair Flip

From this

to this...


Nov 22 2009
The 2009 American Music Awards - Arrivals held at The Nokia Theatre L.A. Live in Los Angeles, California on November 22nd, 2009.

Tossing the hair over the shoulders or away from the face is a sure sign of attraction. It draws attention to the hair and is a way for the woman to both preen and get exposure to the object of her interest. Placing the hand over the heart is a sign to signify care/love. Since it is happening on the red carpet of the American Music Awards it is probably choreographed; but it gets good grades.◦

The Hair Flip

How to take a Drink of Wine to Attract Sexual Attention at the Bar

I had a friend (who happens to be a girl) told me about this new show, it is about a bunch of guys who are playing fantasy football in the same league, I like it. I will warn you it is for mature audiences because of the sophomoric, college feel of the jokes.

The video is short, but it works because she is showing her tongue in a sexual way, and even though it is only for a split second, it could work for you. I am sure it was consciously done.◦

How to take a Drink of Wine to Attract Sexual Attention at the Bar

Showing Wrists is a Subtle Way to Attract Sexual Attention

NEWPORT BEACH, CA - NOVEMBER 21: Actor Nicholas Gonzalez and a guest at the All In For Wishes Celebrity Poker Tournament For Make-A-Wish Foundation Orange County at The Pacific Club on November 21, 2009 in Newport Beach, California.

In The Definitive Book of Body Language it says an interested woman will gradually expose the smooth, soft underside of her wrists to the potential male partner and will increase the rate she flashes her wrists as her interest grows. The wrist area has long been considered one of the highly erotic areas of the female body because it is one of the more delicate skin areas.◦

Showing Wrists is a Subtle Way to Attract Sexual Attention

Wonder who Dakota Fanning is Giving this Backward Glance to?

Actress Dakota Fanning, a cast member in the romantic fantasy thriller motion picture The Twilight Saga: New Moon , attends the premiere of the film Los Angeles on November 16, 2009.

She's growing up right before our eyes... It is rare to see someone like Dakota- who we first saw in movies when she was seven or eight- begin taking roles in the young adulthood range...

This is the Sideways Glance, hopefully she is just curious about something going on behind her, but she could be sending the strong attraction signal to another... Would be interesting to know who she was looking at?!?!? Perhaps we'd have a Hollywood scoop...

To read more about the Sideways Glance, in a previous entry I saw Rachel Nichols do a more adult version of this pose.◦

Wonder who Dakota Fanning is Giving this Backward Glance to?

This Couple

This a great picture to analyze. WOW!

The man is in the dominant position and she is in the submissive position as she curls her body into the man. Her left arm protects him and further engulfs him in her touch- it is form of a hug. Her feet are pointed toward her interest...her man.

The man protectively holds her close by hugging her around her back. His head tilts downward towards her. His hips are tilted to the side to accommodate more surface area touching each other.◦

This Couple

Rachel Nichols Does Sexy

Aug 6 2009
LOS ANGELES, CA - AUGUST 06: Actress Rachel Nichols arrives at the special screening of 'G.I. Joe: The Rise Of Cobra' held at Grauman's Chinese Theatre on August 6, 2009 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images)

A sideways glance over a raised shoulder was the pose made famous by Marilyn Monroe. In many ways it highlights a woman's roundness and curves. Notice the slightly drooped eyelids- she will hold a man's gaze just long enough for him to notice, then BAM she will look away leaving him wanting more.◦

Rachel Nichols Does Sexy