Showing posts with label Ears. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ears. Show all posts

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Touching the Ear (or Around the Ear) and What it Means

NEW YORK - OCTOBER 02: Writer Ken Auletta speaks at the 2010 New Yorker Festival at SVA Theatre 2 on October 2, 2010 in New York City. (Photo by Gary Gershoff/Getty Images the New Yorker)

Writer Ken Auletta speaks at the 2010 New Yorker Festival at SVA Theatre 2 on October 2, 2010 in New York City.


If we are touching around the ear while we are speaking it could mean we do not like what we are saying- or what we have to say.


If we are listening, it means we do not like what is being said.


The science about it is the ear (and nose) it is very thin, and when we are bothered, the nerve ending can become exited and subconsciously we often reach for the ear so the nerve ending do not bother us- it is a pacifying touch.


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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Touching Around the Eye

Betfred.com World Snooker Championships

Graeme Dott of Scotland gestures during his match against Stephen Maguire of Scotland during the Betfred.com World Snooker Championships match at The Crucible Theatre on April 23, 2010 in Sheffield, England.

Sure this pool player could have a genuine itch right below the eye, but we also will touch around the eye subconsciously when we see something we do not like seeing.

Betfred.com World Snooker Championships

Davis of England gestures after a miss in his match against John Higgins of Scotland during the Betfred.com World Snooker Championships match at The Crucible Theatre on April 23, 2010 in Sheffield, England.

We can also touch our ear(s) when we are saying or hearing something we do not like.◦
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Friday, October 2, 2009

Woman Shows us the Universal Gesture of the Ear Cup

Woman with holding hand to ear, close up, low angle view, studio shot

This means speak up if it is done deliberately. If it is done when we are straining to hear another and the gestures aids by artificially enlarging the ear.◦
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Friday, September 11, 2009

Obama Doesn't Like What He is Hearing?

Obama Delivers Remarks On Health Insurance Reform

WASHINGTON - SEPTEMBER 10: U.S. President Barack Obama gestures as he speaks on health insurance reform at the Eisenhower Executive Office Building of the White House on September 10, 2009 in Washington, DC. Obama continued the discourse, a day after he addressed the joint session of Congress, urging passage of his national health care plan. (Photo by Alex Wong/Getty Images)

When we are listening to something we do not like, sometimes we will subconsciously touch our ear.

When we are talking and touch our own ear, it can be a sign we do not like what we are saying, and it even can be a sign of deception. Memorize this facial expression, this is a face that Obama uses when he is saying something he doesn't quite believe himself or he has just taken a shot "at the other side."◦
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Friday, May 29, 2009

Touching of the Mouth and Ears while Listening?


I was watching a couple of back to back episodes of "The First 48 hours" (on A&E) and it is a good show to watch regularly if you are interested in this web site- there is at least 10 minutes of real life interrogation videos in each show.

What was different about the episodes last night was the camera wasn't mounted on the wall near the ceiling, but instead they had a camera in the room so the suspect and the interviewer could been seen just as good.

A couple of times I wanted to scream at the interviewer because they were making some big mistakes with their body language.

When I teach television reporters to interview I tell them you have to "show" the right reaction to get the best results. Sometimes you must present yourself in the most non judgmental way; in fact you have to build trust by becoming a chameleon so you are on their "wave length." You have to be in that mode 90-95% of the time when doing the interview, and save the other 5-10% when you really need it to get your information.

When we are listening and we are hearing something we do not like, subconsciously we might touch or even cover our ears. I can spot this from across a crowded restaurant, and when I see some printed materials on the table I know someone is being sold some insurance or is trying to get someone to switch banks/brokers/etc. Remember this, it is a big clue when evaluating your listeners.

When we cover our mouths while listening, it is saying we do not want to talk now. This is something that is being taught and is becoming widely known and used.

Bask to the shows last night. One investigator was getting a cold blooded confession. The investigator was tugging on their ear at the beginning of every sentence, moving forward in their seat (because they were excited because of such a clear cut home run of a confession) and was to quick to cover their mouth after asking the question. It was a melody and mix of lack of control by the investigator that was sending the wrong message. It became an unnatural conversation. It was like getting a good hand in poker and letting everybody know by starting to dance with your feet under the table. It was complicated by the tone of their questions, it was judgemental giving the impression that they were going to pounce with an old fashion parental scolding. They didn't ask themselves why am I getting things so good. The confessor actually smiled as the detective left the room. Mission Accomplished.

What should have happened is this: never tug at your ear when interviewing someone for television or because they are a suspect in a crime. Do not lean forward or back in a chair unless it is to make some sort of point. Cover your mouth only when you need to - when you need to send a clear signal I'm going to let you talk now, don't do it when they are babbling like a brook. It was done so fast you could be sending the signal to NOT talk- it can be interrupted like a signal you might get from a parent when you start to ask Aunt Jenny why she has hair on her upper lip- catch those words and put them back in your mouth. If someone is giving you information so freely that could send them to prison for the rest of their life, or even the death penalty, you have to ask yourself why. Why are they making my job as a detective so easy? I've already got to what I need to convict, perhaps I should should change the pace and tone of the conversation so we can get back to our normal roles as detective and criminal to see what is lurking below the surface.

There were two people involved in killing two people and almost killing another. Two of the victims were women who were tied up and duct taped was placed over their mouth and eyes, they were shot execution style. Thankfully one lived. The other one that was killed was involved in the drug trade and a contract was put out on his life. The confessor said he shot the drug dealer in his driveway, while his friend shot the girls in the house. He was probably being untruthful about some if not all of the story. He was distancing himself from the killings that were senseless and could carry the stiffest of penalties with any jury. What type of situation are you in when your best "play" is to confess to shooting a guy three times in the driveway?!?!

The detective got the confession without any techniques, simply something like this was said at the beginning of the interview, 'So you know two people were killed up there... and one lived, tell me what you know about it?'

I don't know the end result. I do know people are going to prison given the confessions and evidence, and sometimes that is enough... but I just feel uneasy unless I have the complete and real truth.

The First 48 Hours web site
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