Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Are You Living or Working For a Sociopath? How to Tell.

"The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know—someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for—is a sociopath."

Several years ago I listen to this book and found interesting.  The book will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you may know.

I was reading an article about the newest serial killer William Clyde Gibson III who happens to be from my current home state of Indiana and it made me think about the above book, and take it one step further and teach you how to identify a sociopath with the things I talk about on this website.

First about the article, it lists the typical stereotypical behaviors of being nasty, loner, attempting to lure women into dangerous situations.  He was unique because he did have criminal record and had spent time in both prison and in mental hospitals, which most serial killers have very little or no record because they want to fly "under the radar." He had said things that were big time clues to his violent ways, that anyone who is reading this blog would have known he was a sociopath.  But what about seemingly normal people who live, work and interact with us- sometimes daily- that are sociopaths?!?!?  Could your boss who likes to bully employees around be a sociopath? What about the controlling and manipulative spouse or friend.  What about the relative or friend you always seem to have to prove yourself to?

At one point in the article a psychologist said, "At times Gibson seemed rather incongruent,  smiling for example while talking about distressing or sad events.” Here lies the key.  

Paying special attention to those around you, look for the subtle expression of joy or happiness at the wrong time(s).  Like the example of the yelling boss, he/she is "yelling" because he is truly angry? Do you see some joy in the eyes and mouth?  Also think of the drill sergeant or football coach motivating players with negative loud words being screamed at someone else, are they secretly enjoying they are providing emotional pain to another human being?

Is there more activity in the eyes?  The eyes convey emotion.  They convey interest.  Is the interest misplaced? Let's take a look at two sociopaths like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson.  Charles Mason had the deep penetrating eyes that screamed with overt intensity that we'd easily identify with danger.  While Ted Bundy was different, and he operated like a confidence flim-flam man.  But look at his eyes and demeanor of almost any archive video footage, his eyes and expressions leak joy and pride at times where he was attempting to show other emotions.

Without going into the psychological definition of sociopaths let's examine some of the common traits that are directly related to things I talk about on this site:

  • Pathological Lying 
  • Love of Themself- Narcissm
  • Shallow Emotions
  • Lack of Empathy 
  • Incapable of Real Human Attachment to Another
  • Lack Remorse, Shame or Guilt 

Something to thing about, but even more to notice in those around you...