Total Arm, Shoulder, and Hand Shurg

Two men gesture as they stand on a flooded street in Villaviciosa, June16, 2010. Heavy rains during the week caused flooding throughout the northern Spanish regions of Galicia and Asturias, leaving at least two people dead.◦

Total Arm, Shoulder, and Hand Shurg

Stop the Press!!! Bachelor!!!! and Rozlyn Papa was She Lying

I am sorry to all the fans of reality shows; I've watched almost every show of the new season and felt conflicted. The new bachelor (or the producers) have been playing with our feelings. Nothing has seemed right; sometimes he picks the girl who he had connected with the most, other times the exact opposite. I've been going crazy not writing about this.

Several producers of this type of show have emailed me in the past and I've been having a huge conflicts- let things happen as the producers want it to happen or tell the truth...

The latest bachelor does not have the mental capacity to make an informed decision concerning his long term future- whomever he chooses will not stand the test of time.

To those who have emailed me the last several weeks/months, I apologise- did not want to ruin it for you.

Now onto Rozlyn Papa and the inappropriate relationship with a producer.



When the host asks if anything happened physically at the house, we can see her answer "absolutely not" but she does display a shoulder shrug as she is saying it.

When the host asks why she did not stop him and and tell him he was out of his mind (when he was confronting her on the show about the relationship) she makes a joke, "Well I was thinking it, don't worry." Whenever someone is being asked a question (which it was a great question that gets to the heart of the situation) and they attempt to use humor instead of directly answering, it is a deflection technique, and is often a sign of deception. At some level they are trying to lessen the impact of a high stakes question and therefore discount both the question and their answer.

As she is explaining why she thought she was being confronted- calling her son- she actually gives the host a subtle WINK with her left eye. HOTSPOT. Even though she thought of a somewhat loosely plausible, somewhat logical statement, she herself does not believe it and gives it away with a WINK!

"Made it clear I used his phone." Shoulder shrug.

When she is confronted about the phone issue and relationship issue being separate, she clearly has been caught and she goes into shutdown mode. Joe Navarro craftily describes the three stages of confrontation as Freeze, Fight, or Flight. Rozlyn clearly is in the FREEZE mode. When I read about this concept in Joe's book, it so simple and clear, but it had never been articulated and was quickly accepted by those of us that study body language- up to that point we had not recognized the freeze mode and thought there was only flight or fight... Unfortunately, the host asks a question too soon and "pulls" her from the frozen state. If you see this happen in real life, remain quiet and allow the subject to make the next move- you may be very close to obtaining a confession. This is one of those rare 'personality' defining moments that are rarely seen and occur infrequently in interpersonal communication.

"On my child's life, that never happened!" is a declarative statement. Declarative statements like this and, "I swear to God" are not usually given by honest people and often indicate deception.

You can also hear the stress in her voice, her pitch becomes higher, it is a clear sign of stress.◦

Stop the Press!!! Bachelor!!!! and Rozlyn Papa was She Lying

Jelena Jankovic and Coach Talk

Jelena Jankovic of Serbia talks to a member of her coaching staff after losing her first round match against Agnes Szavay of Hungary during day two of the 2010 Medibank International at Sydney Olympic Park Sports Centre on January 11, 2010 in Sydney, Australia.

This is one of those interesting pictures that tells the whole story.

Even if we didn't have the caption we can see her raised shoulders and palms facing up, she is conveying that there wasn't anything else she could do; palms open show honesty, shrug shows uncertainty.

Her coach is also saying a few things with his body language- pursed lips, not looking her in the eye, and notice the way his elbow and arms is in a triangle shape- this is often done to appear "bigger" because you are taking up more space.◦

Jelena Jankovic and Coach Talk

Rusty Interview from Dateline

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This is a study in someone who doesn't want to speak, is nervous, and shows us this with almost every movement. Things to look for are biting lips, scratching neck, nervous chuckle, pursed lips, shrugs, rubbing hands, faster blink rate, eye direction clues, answers a question with a question, torso and head pointing towards the exit.

I suggest watching this video several times.◦

Rusty Interview from Dateline

Mom of Murdered 7 Year Old on the Today Show

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As the investigation intensifies in the murder of Florida 7-year-old Somer Thompson, her mother Diena Thompson, speaks out about the tragedy. ...

I said it from the start, she had nothing to do with the disappearance of her daughter. Many people have said she was fake crying in some of the earlier interviews, I said 'NO' they were real tears ( I felt they were real because the timing of wiping was random and not during lulls in the conversation/interview which is often the case when faked).

We do not have much information and the police are releasing less than usual for such a high profile crime.

Here is what we know: Mother was at work at the time. The kids she normally walks home with lost sight of her 1-2 blocks from the school. She had to have cut through at least one backyard to get to their home, based on when she was last seen. There are 60+ registered sex offenders in a 3-5 mile area from where she was last seen. Victimology would suggest two things: random act of opportunity presented itself to a predator; or parent of the child she got into a physical fight with at school that day should be interviewed (not likely but parents do strange things to protect and help their own children, I'm sure the police did conduct an interview). It was not premeditated. It was not an accident where someone was covering up the accidental death up with abduction scheme. The reason she was found in the dump was, she was placed in a dumpster in Orange City and delivered to dump via regular trash pick up.

I will state again, to be very clear, the mother had nothing to do with it. The only hot spot from this interview is how she refers to the person(s) who did this terrible crime, at one point it is "thing" at another "they" lured her in a car, and lastly she states her daughter realized "he" was a danger. This could easily be explained, "a thing" is depersonalising the unsub, the reference to "they" could be from initial reports concerning two people attempting to speak with a random child sometime before her daughters disappearance (I believe the day or week before).

She still appears to be experiencing normal emotions as someone who lost her daughter who is getting a great deal of support from her community.◦

Mom of Murdered 7 Year Old on the Today Show

Chynna Phillips Talks About Her Sister's Relationship with Their Father

Watch her neck and shoulders in the video, especially around 35 seconds... what we see here is lifting of her shoulders (beyond the shrugs) and the lowering of her neck and head. Her body language is showing us she'd like to hide, and the cluster of gestures most resembles a turtle going into the safety of its shell.◦

Chynna Phillips Talks About Her Sister's Relationship with Their Father

Who would you buy street food from?

You might remember a scene from 'Lie to Me' where Lightman confronts a street vendor. Well take a look at this video...

About 20 seconds into the video they are interviewing a street vendor and when he is talking about the quality of his food you can see several subtle shrugs...

The next person interviewed, who won last year, watch his elbow flair out. He is making himself appear bigger, he is proud of his win and this is a subtle way of preening.

At 1:55 we see another vendor give us a shrug when saying what is the most popular dish he sells. He may not be sure what is the most popular, or perhaps he is promoting what he sells more of while another dish is more popular in regards to people loving the taste, or worse promoting the dish that is the cheapest from him to make so his profits rise... He is very passionite about his food. I'd give his food a try.

Now to the winner, it was the first person who gave us several shrugs when talking about the quality of his products...◦

Who would you buy street food from?

Ben Roethlisberger Statement on Civil Suit Alleging He Raped a Woman

This is a high stakes situation which lends itself to leakage if deception or inaccuracies are present.

Obviously he was very nervous and exhibited high stress throughout the statement. He read from a prepared statement, that included legal review, and he had practiced it several times. His hand gestures were unnatural.

With all that being said he did speak freely about all the issues and I could see no deception or inaccuracies. You can notice how subtly he slightly shakes his head no and yes to emphasize his points.

His initial sentence is not something that could be said by someone who was guilty without some sort of deception leakage, especially under his extreme stress and nervousness.

Slight eye blocking with his blinking, he doesn't like that he is seeing all the reporters, cameras, etc.

There are several subtle shoulder shrugs which suggest he is unclear why this is occurring. Shrugs are a universal gesture of helplessness and uncertainty.

He is less convincing when he describes his obligations to his work; it is during this time he shows subtle sadness and defeat. It is as if he is saying with his expressions that it will be difficult to accomplish his obligations.

Now, there may be more to the story that will eventually come out through the legal proceedings, for instance he doesn't say he did not have consensual sexual relations with the accuser. He is too nervous and stressed if this was someone he didn't know or only met in the lobby.

It is my opinion he is being truthful in his statement.◦

Ben Roethlisberger Statement on Civil Suit Alleging He Raped a Woman